Does it really? Why does time take to the sky some days, and others days it seems to crawl at a snail’s pace? The days are long, but the years fly by, is what an elderly woman said to me one day. Why does it seem to some days, and others not? We all get 24 hours, 1,440 minutes, 86,400 seconds in each day. All get deposited in to our daily bank account each time we wake up. It’s not guaranteed though, but it’s there. It’s there for us to use it how we see fit. Some are intensely focused, squeezing every second out of every day, while others, let it slip, and even some, let it go.
Time flies when you’re having fun right? Not necessarily. In the book “Making Time”, author Steve Taylor PhD, writes about time seeming to move faster or slower based upon a number of theories. Time doesn't actually change speed, it's only our perception of time that changes. Taylor states time seems to move more slowly when we are bored, with aging, during difficult and uncomfortable situations, in routine, and also when were are exposed to new environments and experiences. Time seems to speed up when we are having fun, enjoying ourselves, and in ‘flow states’ of hyper-focus activity. These are all positive reasons for time flying by, but time can seem to slip out of our grasp when we get swept up in the ‘cultural current’, falling into the snare of distraction.
Distraction; a thing that prevents someone from giving full attention to something else. If we don’t plan our day, the day plans us. The attraction of distraction has gotten us all. With the bombardment of tv, radio, and internet ads, coupled with social media feeds, we get caught up in the ever-flowing rapid current, with our attention being tugged from one thing to the next. Our attention is stolen from us day in and day out, from flashy marketing, to the beeps, dings, and buzzes of our devices saying to us “Look at me! Look at me! Pay attention to me!!!”
In a previous blog, “Be In The Now”, I write about being distracted with both the past and the future, missing out on the now. Check it out here: https://do1more.com/blogs/motivation-station/be-in-the-now
Movement isn’t always progress. Time can slip by shuffling papers just as much as it can writing one. One produces something, the other burns time. Have you ever heard someone say, or even yourself say, “I don’t have time…”? Or “I’m too busy...”? I have too. Many of us pride ourselves on being “busy”. We equate busyness for progress, and a full schedule for a successful day. If you don’t have time, you don’t have priorities. A busybody is an unhealthy body. Let’s not mistake movement for progress. You can rock on a wooden horse all day without getting anywhere.
I have the absolute pleasure of working with seniors. When asked what would they would have done differently when they were younger? What would they like to have more of now? Few of them say they wished they worked more hours, made more money, took less vacation and spent less time with their loved ones. Instead, many of them say they would have worried less, smiled more, took more naps, spent more time doing things they enjoyed, and spent more time with the ones they love. Instead of chasing material items like cars, houses, designer clothes, accessories, and fancy electronics, they shared their desire for better health, deeper, more meaningful relationships, and most of all, more time. More time to experience the joys of life.
So what’s distracting you? Is it tv? Hobbies? Gaming? Work that’s not meaningful/impactful? Relationship(s)? The internet? A lifestyle of keeping up with the Jones'? Or the rectangular device you’re holding while reading this? Time can slip with all of these. Time can slip from us with both good and bad things. Time doesn't have to fly, nor move at a snail's pace. We control the throttle and the brake. We can decide what we focus on, where our attention goes, what we fill our schedules with, what we spend our time on, who we spend it with. We all start with the same amount each day at sunrise. 24 hours, 1,440 minutes, and 86,400 seconds.
So, how do you spend your 24?